Did you know that in Pervomaysk more than half of the new fathers, with
infants and toddlers, abandoned their wives and
When Olya Ishchenko (acting mayor of Pervomaysk) and I were delivering aid, she said it was 70%.
CAN you imagine that?
Single moms besiege the city government almost every day.
I can’t and I don’t want to believe these percentages. Olya must have had her numbers mixed up. She’s mistaken.
It can’t be. But…
…it’s like that. It’s the truth. Even if the numbers are approximate.
Here’s a bit of the truth. Tatyana Valeryevna Babenkova.
It’s also true she has four kids.
When the bombing began, they all went to Odessa. Returned here in May.
She has three girls–Liza, Sonya, and Dasha. Lovely and sprightly young ladies.
Who glued themselves to me, asking what tasty things I brought them.
They are smart and mature.
And mom also has a two-month old Kirill on her hands.
Here, in Pervomaysk, she gets help from her mother.
–How is that possible? Alone with [four] kids?
–It is possible. And you know what–it’s better without him. So let it be.
The girls were tiptoeing around barefoot and haranguing mom for some sweets.
Wives can be terrible.
They do everything wrong. They nag mercilessly. They want something all the time.
Attention, money, flowers, devil knows hwat.
They are no longer worshiping their alpha-males who once upon the time laid the world at their feet.
They can become terrible and unreasonable.
And they are the guilty ones. Guilty that the men abandoned them. Don’t want to see them anymore.
Yes, they are the guilty ones.
And perhaps it’s better to live separately than in a family where the parents are constantly butting heads and hate one another.
It’s like that.
But you know what– the kids are not guilty of that.
The kids are not guilty their parents are they way they are. Every human has two parents. TWO.
And I wonder, how many men who ran away from their “horrible” wives and
are not helping them, are reading this post? How many of you are walking
around Russia or Ukraine with heads held high–“I’m a refugee”? With
your mothers, wives, and children left to their fate–how many of you are
70%. Seventy. Percent. [excluding families that left all together, and only those that have young children – do not misunderstand – ed.]
I don’t believe it.
And I’m also thinking–what is a woman to do, when her man, who held
vigil by her window and kissed all the nooks of her body, leaves her and
his kids in a besieged city? Or maybe it’s about something else?
I don’t understand, men, can you explain it to me?!